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About Self Positivity

Poll Question

Discover the secret lost arts to powerful self esteem and feel good about yourself ... just the way you are!

Do you believe in yourself? Most people don't. Even the big names that are flaunted in front of us as examples of success seem to be plagued with insecurities, as soon as you scratch the surface. Want to know why?

You've probably felt down on yourself at one time or another. I certainly did for a long time there. I went through some tough times as a kid, abused and convinced by my abuser that I was barely worth his attention and that the way he treated me was my own fault. I felt pretty low - I'd been trained to. Imagine a doormat that apologizes for not being good enough to step on - that was me.

But then something happened. I moved away from home and fell in with a crowd that paid attention to the good things I had to offer. To my surprise they found quite a few of them. I started to question why I felt so worthless when other people obviously found something worthwhile in me - was I blind not to see it myself? Why could I only ever focus on my faults and never my strengths, I wondered...

That began a journey of discovery that's taken me through two University degrees and over seventeen years. I've studied psychology and read entire libraries of personal growth 'classics'. I've done counselling, social studies, philosophy and education to uncover the ways we're trained to put ourselves down - and find methods to counter them. There's been highs and lows, but bit by bit I uncovered the hidden secrets to not letting the lows knock me down so far, and to making the highs last longer. More importantly, I discovered how to build my inner strength up to believe in myself again.

The confidence I built has been tested in real life. I've faced personal tragedies, career sabotage, abuses of power at work and dysfunctional
relationships, and that's without going into any real detail. Each time I've not only bounced back, but used these techniques to come back stronger. Now I'm also working as an activist for other people's rights and seeing the same patterns over and over in their lives too; the same things that I worked to overcome in my life to build my own self esteem back up. I'm also seeing the results when they apply the secrets and learn to like themselves again.

But it's about more than just feeling good. I've discovered that your beliefs about yourself have a powerful impact on your life as well. Three times now these self positivity techniques have been used specifically to improve my work situation - each time my income jumped by at least 50% (in the last case it more than doubled my pay!) and I got a job that was more enjoyable at better pay. Not once, but THREE TIMES! That's gotta be more than coincidence, don't you think?

How else can it be applied? Well, on the home front I faced down my real estate agent when they tried to jump the rent on my unit of 6 years for the third time running, without giving me notice and while the market rent in the area was dropping. I might not have been happy about it, but when they resorted to bully tactics I took them on, and won. Then they decided to cancel my contract while I was still saving for a deposit to buy my own place, and refused to give me enough time to make the arrangements I needed - so I stood up and made them back down. (The place stood empty for over 6 months after I left, so they got more rent out of it than they would have otherwise). With not enough deposit, all my friends and family thought I'd have to sign another rental somewhere, but I was determined not to, and got myself a lovely place at a discount that I could walk into with nothing needing to be done, plus I had the mortgage agency help me find the way to do it without the standard deposit. End result: I'm in a place of my own at least six months earlier than anyone thought I could be, and way better than I could have expected for the money I laid out - no more rental agencies or inspections anymore, and I can put my pictures up where I like on the walls!

Would you like to be able to take a stand when you need to? Not have to put up with unfair treatment from bosses or colleagues, because they know you'll give as good as you get? How about having the confidence to take the leaps you want to make to get on top of your finances and get your life in order, finally?

Best Wishes,
Crystal

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